What Two Former Trans Men Want You To Know About All The Lies
Oct 11, 2017 By Taylor Fogarty
Paul, a computer programmer who is currently unemployed, is 38 years old and in the process of “detransitioning,” undoing steps towards the sex change he began a decade ago.
Before “transitioning” from male to female, Paul struggled with dysphoria for years. He remembers his high school days filled with shame over his “girlish” interests and peer groups and struggling with gynecomastia (swollen breast tissue in males), isolation, and confusion. When Paul first learned about transgenderism from an article in his student newspaper, he felt he had found the missing piece.
“I wasn’t deranged or simply gay, but instead I misunderstood what a ‘woman’ was, that the term was entirely social, and that my failure to be accepted as a man was because I was really a woman,” he said. Paul never viewed his transformation as a sex change, but as an escape from his gender.
After moving to San Francisco in search of community and acceptance, Paul, uninsured, stumbled across a community health clinic. Upon his first visit, he was prescribed male-to-female hormones, given very little information on the risks and potential side effects, and told “not to worry” whenever he expressed concern about drugs or long-term side effects.
From Hormones to Surgery
After five years of transitioning, Paul sought a way out. Following a poor experience on hormones and wanting to sever his dependence from medication, his doctor suggested an orchiectomy, the removal of one’s testicles, which he was told would allow the hormone intake to stop. With hopes of a life independent of medicine and dysphoria, surgery seemed a saving grace.
“On the day of surgery, I was surprised at how it was suddenly unfolding into something larger than I expected. I tried to stop them, but I was then anesthetized. After surgery, I went into shock at how thoroughly I’d been altered in both appearance and function,” Paul says. “I was a sex addict, and sex was now disrupted. I also now found myself in a constant, low level of groin pain. A year later, the bleeding began. I was told to wait it out, see a specialist, and not to get a lawyer.”
After a painful recovery, Paul was told that, despite having been told otherwise before surgery, he couldn’t actually stop hormone treatment. He confronted his doctor, whom Paul says admitted to lying, claiming “rules were broken for his benefit, to increase access to care.”
Despite Dropping the Hormones, Paul Can’t Go Back
Paul quit the hormones anyway and his detransition took place over the next three years, but not easily: “I became sick and suicidal. The groin pain increased sharply, and my mirror reflection changed. I attempted suicide, and I then began reaching out for help. I saw several therapists. I quit wearing women’s clothes, and I began changing my name and ID docs.”
When asked what Paul’s biggest worries are during his detransition, he tells me: “I feel and look awful. What pains and horrors await me in middle age? Will I live to old age?”
He also fears the future of his romantic endeavors. “I seem to be either a de-sexed monstrosity, or I’m a damaged, mutilated male. I’ve been alone a long time. I’ve been forced into celibacy. I yearn for mere conversation and cuddling.”
Paul has been officially diagnosed with gender dysphoria, and learned that he falls on the autism spectrum.
In an era where transgender rights are at the forefront of social politics, media does its part to selectively inform people about the realities of transition. Transition guides tailored to teens are made up of cartoons and glittered chest binders. Stories on detransitioners are written off as “uncommon” or “myths,” and those who dare tell the stories of those who regret their transition meet repercussions.
When a Man ‘Becomes’ a Woman
Taylor is a student who began transitioning at the age of 23. It started simply.
“All it took was self-declaration. The first thing I did was change my name,” Taylor said. “I wore makeup and committed to growing my hair out and wore more feminine clothing. All of the changes were superficial and followed pretty basic stereotypes of how women appear to the male gaze.”
After a year of living with a feminine name and pronouns, Taylor began hormone therapy. His choice to transition seemed obvious to him: “I wanted to be a woman. Badly. My mental health was very poor at the time and I was very much socially isolated. I felt I could either try living as a woman or else I wanted to kill myself.”
Not finding satisfaction in his new identity, Taylor began the detransition process after a year, quitting hormones and reverting back to a masculine expression of self. He described to me his disappointment in the system.
“I wish I had been challenged by a doctor,” he says. “I went to an endocrinologist, who gave me a prescription on the first visit, before my blood work results even came back. ‘It’ll be fine, congratulations!’ was his attitude. The doctor should’ve challenged me.”
What Former Trans People Advise Potential Trans People
Taylor’s advice to those questioning themselves is ominous: “Our physical bodies, with genitalia and chromosomes, exist in reality, and part of having a body is hating your body. You are taught to hate your body no matter who you are, male or female, and you are falling for it.”
It isn’t all rainbows and book deals. Trans teen idol Jazz Jennings speaks freely about the glamour of embracing one’s self, but little has been published on the complications regarding Jazz’s bottom surgery. His doctors said there wasn’t enough “raw material” to work with due to Jazz’s early consumption of puberty blockers, which stunted genitalia formation.
Undergoing gender reassignment is regarded as the Holy Grail for those struggling with their sex. When the potentially fatal outcomes are not adequately tracked, however, shouldn’t honesty be the priority when speaking about the lifelong effects of the transition process?
Paul’s advice to children looking to transition? “Don’t.”
Some names and identifying details have been changed to protect individuals’ privacy.
Every so often, there is a moment of sanity that pushes back against transgender activism in the sports world, although the reaction to the sane decision is often anything but sane. And so it happened in Australia, where “a male-female transgender athlete has been blocked from taking part in next year’s Australian Rules Football professional women’s league,” according to the BBC.
“Callum Mouncey, who calls himself ‘Hannah,’ stands 6-foot-2 and weighs 15st 8lb [218 pounds]. And [he] wears size 15 shoes, according to his Twitter account.”
Did you get that? A biological male who identifies as a female will not be able to play for the female branch of Australian Rules Football. As the league explained, it took into consideration “transgender strength, stamina, physique, along with the specific nature of the AFLW.”
Good decision! After all, this is not rocket science. Football is a dangerous, physical sport (not just the NFL, but Australian Rules Football, too). Just look at some of these collisions and hits in the men’s league, as well as the hits and fights in the women’s league in the video below. Is it fair or safe to allow a 218-pound male to play side by side with these ladies?
Obviously not, and thankfully, this time around, sanity and reality prevailed. But that is not always the case.
In the last few years, a male weightlifter who identifies as a woman has broken records in women’s weightlifting; a teenage boy who identifies as a girl has been winning girls’ races; and a man who identifies as a woman has mauled female opponents in MMA.
While some have been critical, others have celebrated these accomplishments, which are anything but praiseworthy. What is there to celebrate when a biological male is stronger or faster than a female peer? How is this a breakthrough for equality? To the contrary, it is a breakthrough for inequality, penalizing the other female athletes and making for unfair competitions.
And the more physical the sport, the greater the danger to the female competitors. That’s why there was no small outcry when Fallon Fox, a MTF (male-to-female) athlete, began to fight in the very dangerous sport of Mixed Martial Arts.
Yet, despite the obvious threat to the health and safety of the other female competitors, there were those who defended Fox’s right to fight, stating, “MMA Fighter Fallon Fox Is a Woman, Get Over It.” The medical claim is that “male to female transsexuals have significantly less muscle strength and bone density, and higher fat mass, than males.” Consequently, it’s not unfair for a MTF athlete to compete with other women.
Why, then, is the aforementioned MTF weightlifter smashing records? And why, then, did a female fighter defeated by Fox say she never encountered such strength in a female before? And what if a 7-foot-2-inch NBA player felt that he was really a woman, transitioning to female and wanting to play for the WNBA? Would anyone really care if, after hormone treatments for several years, he no longer had his full male strength? Would it be fair for a 7-foot-2 biological male to compete with other women?
As always, I’m not attacking these trans-identified athletes as if they were evil people. And God alone knows the ultimate reasons for their gender confusion.
I’m simply saying that: 1) it’s not “transphobic” to argue that biological males should not compete against biological females; 2) it’s not fair to the female athletes; 3) it’s sometimes dangerous to the female athletes; and 4) this is nothing to celebrate.
Not surprisingly, there has been an outcry of protest that Callum Mouncey cannot play football with the ladies. As Bill Muehlenberg notes, “Sadly, the reaction from the loony left was as predictable as it was pathetic. Many are calling this an outrage and are demanding that the decision be overturned.”
Specifically, “One opinion piece actually had this headline ‘AFL’s shameful fear of Hannah.’ The commentator wrote: ‘Inclusion it seems is not for everyone and frankly that is a disgrace. It is a confusing and sad situation because Mouncey has basic human rights. You have to feel for her. She doesn’t want to be the face for transgender people. All she wants to do is play footy.’”
Really now? The football league has a “shameful fear of Hannah”? Perhaps it is a healthy fear of Callum.
On a different but related front, Georgia Love, an Australian celebrity, has spoken out against gender-neutral birth certificates, saying, “I have absolutely no issue with people who become transgender or don’t associate with a particular gender as they grow up and become the human adult that they are. But I think on a birth certificate, this is going way too far.”
She added, “You are born with genitalia of a female or a male; that’s how you’re born.”
So, even someone like Love who has no problem with an adult “transitioning” has a problem with saying that a child clearly born male or female can somehow be labeled “gender-neutral.” Yes, “this is going way too far,” just as it’s going way too far when a man who identifies as a woman wants to play women’s football.
Once again, sanity has prevailed, at least for the moment.
TRANS REVOLUTION IS DESTROYING WOMEN (AND EVERYONE ELSE)
How many articles must one pen to alert us to the fact that the West is now but a shadow of its former self? It is so far down the mental and moral sewer that one wonders if it is any longer redeemable. And leading the way here is the utterly bizarre freak show known as the transgender revolution.
Everything it touches it destroys. Anyone foolish enough to run with this gender bender apocalypse will find their mind turning to mush. They will quickly find themselves with feet planted firmly in mid-air. The mind boggles just to witness this dark cloud of madness sweeping away everything in its path.
One thing we know for sure: you can choose one of two options here, but you can NOT have both. You can either side with reason, logic, reality, biology and even DNA, or you can side with the trans-sanity agenda. But you cannot cling to both simultaneously.
They are mutually exclusive. And the evidence of this is everywhere to be found. Consider just for a moment the land of fruit and nuts – California. The trans madness there is at fever pitch. The most recent bit of madness concerns some new bills that basically declare gender to be a fiction:
- SB 179 changes the definition of gender, and creates a third legal gender: non-binary.
- SB 310 simplifies the process for inmates to change their names and gender while in the custody of state or county prisons.
- SB 396 gender identity sensitivity training: Businesses with over 50 employees will be required to provide at least two hours of training and education regarding harassment based on gender identity, gender expression, and sexual orientation. Misgendering will be considered harassment.
As the California Family Council explains:
At the last possible moment on Sunday October 15, Governor Jerry Brown signed a series of bills that fundamentally change the definition of gender on government documents. The state of California no longer believes in the dictionary definition of a man or a woman, which says someone’s sex is determined by certain physical characteristics. Now in California any man can declare themselves a woman, and any woman can use the word “man” for self identification, no questions asked, no physical proof required.
The words “man” and “woman” now legally describe feelings, and those feelings don’t have firm definitions. Consequently, the words “man” and “woman” are meaningless. And if you don’t think the binary gender choices describe your subjective feelings, you can pick a new legal gender choice called “non-binary.” Feelings, not facts now determine reality.
This will not be the end of our journey into irrationality. It is just the beginning. Just watch what happens now that state leaders have established that feelings are more reliable than physical facts when determining what is real and what is true. God help us. Here is a brief description of the gender bills.
This is above all a war on women. Feminism has now gone full circle. The radical feminists told us decades ago that women are identical to men, that women can do anything a man does, that there are no differences between the sexes, and that a radical androgyny should be the way forward.
Well, all that hardcore social activism has now come back to bite them – big time. We are indeed witnessing the extinction of women. They are being assaulted in their own bathrooms by guys who identify as being females; they are being sent to hospitals by guys who identify as being females in sporting contests, and so on.
Scott Yenor speaks a bit more to how all this came about:
The transgender movement originates in the radical feminist project begun after World War II. The founding mother of radical feminism is French thinker Simone de Beauvoir, whose book, “The Second Sex,” was published in America in 1953.
Beauvoir begins her book by asking, “What is a woman?” Her answer sets the stage for subsequent feminist thought: “One is not born, but rather becomes, a woman.” Society makes or constructs a woman’s identity, not nature or God.
That socially constructed identity would eventually be called “gender.” If society would just stop pigeonholing girls into artificial feminine roles, second-wave feminists argue, they would no longer act as if they were “the second sex” and subordinate to men.
Now many feminists groups have declared war on the trans movement for undoing all they sought to achieve over the past half century. Consider just a few indications of this:
A 60-year-old woman was pushed to the floor and punched in the face during a row between feminists and trans activists at Speakers’ Corner. Police are investigating the incident which saw two groups, the Trans-Exclusionary Radical Feminists (TERFs) and Trans Activists, fighting in Hyde Park on Wednesday. TERFS believe that trans women aren’t real women and should not be given the same rights. Maria MacLachlan, a ‘gender critical feminist’, was attacked at Speakers’ Corner in London’s Hyde Park at about 7pm on Wednesday.
Leading feminist icon Germain Greer has of course lashed out at the very idea that trans women are in fact women. She said: “What I’m saying is it doesn’t make them a woman. And apparently people have decided that because I don’t think that post-operative transgender men, i.e., M-to-F transgender people, are women, I’m not to be allowed to talk.”
And feminists in Canada have recently condemned trans activism there:
Two feminists have charged that Liberal transgender “rights” bill will jeopardize women’s rights if it allows biological men into spaces that are for “female-born” women only.
Hilla Kerner, who spoke on behalf of a Vancouver rape crisis centre, and Meghan Murphy told the senate committee studying Bill C-16 that men who choose to be women are not the same as women.
Bill C-16 adds “gender identity” and “gender expression” to the Human Rights Code as prohibited grounds of discrimination, and to the hate crime section in the Criminal Code.
The Vancouver Rape Relief and Women’s Shelter is “worried that well-intentioned legislation will be used to undermine the rights of women and the crucial work of women’s groups to serve and organize with female-born women,” Kerner said.
In the UK we just had this insanity. Consider the headline, “It’s not women who get pregnant — it’s ‘people’”. The piece begins:
The government has said the term “pregnant woman” should not be used in a UN treaty because it “excludes” transgender people. Feminists reacted with outrage to what they said was the latest example of “making women unmentionable” in the name of transgender equality.
The truth is, the status of women is now being threatened by the attempt to redefine sex to mean gender identity. As the Family Policy Alliance puts it:
Worse than enabling men to help themselves to women’s bodies and women’s remedial or protective programs, that redefinition poses a truly existential threat: An administrative ukase decreeing that there really is no such thing as a woman. When the law requires that any man who wishes (for whatever reason) to be treated as a woman is a woman, then “woman” (and “female”) lose all meaning.
With the stroke of a pen, women’s existence – shaped since time immemorial by their unique and immutable biology – has been eliminated by Orwellian fiat. Women, as they have been known forever, will simply be no more.
Katy Faust offers us a telling summary of where all this is heading:
- Goodbye scholarships that encourage women to enter science and tech.
- Goodbye female sports teams.
- Goodbye protections for women in locker rooms, changing rooms, and bathrooms.
- Goodbye to protections for women in prisons and homeless shelters.
- Goodbye parental rights when you and the state disagree about whether or not your child should chemically or surgically “transition”.
- Hello to the most practical expression of misogyny the world has ever known.
It is time to transcend the trans madness, before women disappear altogether.
THE TRANSGENDER STAMPEDE GIVES MAO TSE-TUNG COMPETITION
I have come to believe that the transgender movement is the worst thing that has happened in my lifetime—with the possible exception of Mao Tse-tung’s Great Leap Forward, which killed at least 40 million Chinese in just five years.
But the transgender push has only just begun, and the whole ruling class of the Western world is behind it as if their very lives depended on it. Not just politicians, but movie studios, TV executives, teachers’ unions and other—ahem!—educators, judges, lawyers, and business corporations: all are guilty.
Furthermore, the push has advanced with terrifying speed, so much so, just to report it has become a challenge. One is reminded of a herd of cattle, dying of thirst, stampeding toward a water-hole. Why this folly should seem like a water-hole to anyone is a thing beyond conjecture.
Even churches have leaped aboard the bandwagon. Recently the Church of England ordered all 4,700 of its schools, serving over a million pupils, to “allow children to experiment with their gender identity.” No more “Be not conformed to this world” (Romans 12:2). No more “[M]ale and female created He them” (Genesis 1:27). We can’t even say “Boys will be boys” anymore. How the church squares this with God’s Word is more than I can understand. Maybe they don’t bother to try.
Last week the New York City Transit Authority forbade its employees to say “Ladies and gentlemen”, lest some “transgendered person,” Heaven help us, among millions of subway riders, be offended. “Ladies and gentlemen” is taboo because it is not “inclusive.” That little word has done a great deal of damage to our culture.
A recent Pew Research poll found that 77 percent of Democrats with four or more years of college now believe that “sex is not determined at birth”. True, that’s Democrats for you, we can expect no better—but what hath “college” wrought? Do people really wind up believing whatever pure crapola that they learn in college? Is it really that powerful? Imagine if it were ever used for some constructive purpose. But that may not be possible.
And note the language creep. Throughout the poll, Pew employed the formula “gender assigned at birth.” Assigned by whom? If there’s any assigning going on, there must be an assigner. Some of us have always thought that was God, but now we’re told we’re wrong. We are not told who does the assigning, but it seems we’re expected to do it ourselves—as if we were God: as in Satan’s everlasting con job, “Ye shall be as gods.” Whatever we say we are, we are. We “self-identify” as muskrats, so that makes us muskrats.
Now this is both madness and abomination. It is a rejection of reality, a revolt against God’s created order. And it’s come so far, so fast, like a runaway train, that we have no time to predict where it will carry us.
Do you want to live in an order created by charlatans and idiots?
But we are not gods. Our inane and foolish words do not define reality. Why is it even necessary to point this out? Say you can fly, jump off the roof, and see what happens. There is no way this will turn out well for us.
God will eventually carry out His plan of regeneration and salvation mo matter what our worldly rulers say and do. I don’t think He listens to the New York City Transit Authority. But because of what these imbeciles say and do, and because of the mindless multitudes who follow them, it’s going to be an unimaginably rough ride. Whether it ends with a thunderous crash or a soft and sickening plop doesn’t much matter.
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