Old Fashion Still Good
April 7, 2017 By Rev. Paul N. Papas II
Every time I think that I have heard it all, there comes another one. Now it appears that people, who are hell-bent on indoctrinating everyone that up is down, and down is up, are upset with the Vice President. Why, because he will not have dinner with a women alone who is not his wife and without his wife being present. Nor will he go to an event that serves booze, if his wife is absent. To the Vice President and every other man who thinks the same way, I say BRAVO!
Ever since God and prayer were kicked out of schools we have witnessed, at an ever increasing rapid rate, the decline of the family. With the decline of the family came a myriad of social, political, and metal health issues.
Call me old fashioned, or politically incorrect, if you’d like. I was taught men should stand up when a woman entered the room and hold the door for women and elders. Today there are those who would attach a negative connotation to these actions. To those I say “it is mind over matter”. I don’t mind, and they don’t matter.
If you choose to stand in quicksand rather than on a rock, don’t be surprised when you’re soon buried under a lot of dirt.
By refusing to have dinner with a woman without his wife being present and not going to an event that serves booze if his wife is absent, a husband communicates his dedication to his wife alone, and avoids any appearance of evil. The husband’s dedication to his wife prevents inappropriate actions on his part that could lead to the break up of his family. This can also be said for a wife’s dedication to her husband in the same manner. Family break ups, which lead to a divorce, are only good for making divorce lawyers rich.
Family break ups often lead to some level of short or long term emotional, mental health and trust issues.
Family break ups can be also caused by, or lead to abuse issues. Abuse issues often lead to some level of short or long term emotional, mental health and trust issues. Abusive relationships, or encounters, affect a lot more than the abuser and the abused. People who have been abused often become abusers.
Abuse can be caused by or lead to involvement with the multi-billion dollar porn industry. Pornography objectifies and dehumanizes men and women. Pornography destroys relationships as it creates a false understanding of interpersonal relationships.
The multi billion dollar pornography industry is tied to the multi billion dollar sex trafficking industry which seeks to satisfy the unrealistic needs created and supported by the pornography industry.
A husband who refuses to dine with a women without his wife present and refuses to attend a function that serves booze without his wife present guards against allowing any temptation to break his wedding vows. The same can be said for a wife who refuses to dine with a man without her husband present or attend a function that serves booze without her husband present. Couples who guard against temptation are less likely to end up in divorce court and all the tragedies of breaking up a family.
Couples who are dedicated to each other will work through issues either by themselves or with the help of another person, as the need may arise.
I applaud those couples who show this type of dedication to each other, gentlemen who hold doors for ladies, stands when a lady enters the room, and helps her with her chair as she is seated. Call me old fashioned. Old fashioned is still good.
PENCE IS RIGHT: HIGH STANDARDS MEAN NO LUNCHES ALONE WITH A WOMAN!
Radical women are attacking Vice-President Mike Pence for not having lunch with a woman without his wife being present. Nor will he go to an event that serves booze if his wife is absent. One female tweeted, “So the GOP is up in arms over Sharia law, yet Mike Pence won’t have a business meal with a woman that’s not his wife. Sure, that checks out.” The female penman er, penwoman obviously is ignorant about Sharia law.
Sharia requires death to any Muslim who converts to Christ; sexual mutilation of young females; honor killings if a Muslim family is “dishonored” by a female member’s rape; no criticism of Islam; men can have four wives, etc. Sharia is already in Europe and is a growing embryo in America and will be in full bloom if such non-thinkers above have their way.
Another female writer declared, “he believes they [women] remain such fallen, lascivious things that he can’t possibly be in a room alone with them, it says less about his faith and more the fact he sees women as lesser beings.” The fact is she doesn’t know what he believes. If he really believes the Bible as he declares then he believes women and men are fallen beings capable of all kinds of evil. And the female critic put words into his mouth when she charges him of seeing women as “lesser beings.” As usual, liberals and progressives are the most dishonest, desperate, and doleful people alive.
Pence’s concern over his marriage is admirable and should be emulated by every man. After all, no one will have a reason to make unfounded accusations if he follows that practice. If he is always faithful to that practice, he will never degrade his office, destroy his marriage, decimate his children or disgrace his Lord.
Pence is also castigated for calling his wife, Mother. Of course, the know-nothings in the media don’t know that such a practice is common in many homes as a part of teaching and reminding children to call her Mother. This failure only highlights the lack of sophistication and education on the part of progressives–i.e., haters of decency and normalcy.
Critics of Pence’s practice are oblivious to the many members of congress who came to Washington, leaving their families back in the hinterland, only to wind up in bed with some floozy. Sexual immorality is possible with any two humans, so sane people will be careful, not careless; thoughtful, not thoughtless; and realistic, not reckless. Of course, this practice should be followed in every profession!
Billy Graham and Jerry Falwell made it a practice to never be alone with a woman who was not a relative. In that respect, they were right on target. No doubt, they practiced that for the same reason I have always done so: because none of us are 100% reliable until we are dead and because of the possible appearance of wrongdoing.
As a young youth worker, I passed young ladies standing in the rain at bus stops lest I be seen alone with them in my car. While that seems extreme, I was never involved in a scandal in an occupation that is rife with scandals. I would do the same thing if I were starting out today. Through the years, I never put myself in a position where I might break my marriage vows or give my critics a reason to falsely accuse me. We are not to give any person a reason to suspect or accuse us of evil.
I have very dear lady friends who have contributed much to who I am. However, I would never consider taking one out to dinner, or rubbing their backs, or even hugging them. It would be presumptuous of me and untoward of me. One thing is sure: if you don’t hug them, you won’t sleep with them. This generation, especially young ladies, seem to hug everyone–even the mailman. A kind, gentle, friendly smile along with a handshake can convey love, friendship, appreciation, etc., as well as a hug but without the danger. And it is not realistic to minimize the danger.
I have never been a “hugger” but in recent years, I have broken that rule for old and dear friends. So, I am not a purist about hugging but I am prudent.
Yes, Jesus dealt with women but there is not one example of Him being alone with a woman in a private place. Besides, I’m not Jesus. What’s wrong with being wise, not fearful, but wise? Why not have women counselling other women? All pastors, psychiatrists, therapists should have windows in office doors? Why not have your wife as an assistant?
The Apostle Paul knew there was danger in very close physical relationships. He told us to flee youth lusts. Moreover, the biggest reason I believe in being very careful about cross gender relationships is the appearance of evil. Paul warned in 1 Thessalonians 5:22, “Abstain from all appearance of evil.” We cannot permit other people to control our lives but we must control our own by being circumspect in our relationships. Furthermore, I fall back on my lifetime principle of “being too narrow rather than being too broad.” That is a good rule-of-thumb that usually works.
I read a blog by a woman who promotes cross gender relationships and it was fraught with problems. She admitted that her new husband (after she divorced her first one who was a skirt chaser) had chosen to take her last name. That is not traditional or scriptural. When God married Adam and Eve, their name was Adam. Genesis 5:2 reveals, “Male and female created he them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created.”
Plus, since the husband is the head of the family, she should take his name. He is responsible for her provision, her safety, and her debts.
Why would one not want to be with a wife/husband? A wife is a completer of her husband and a husband is a protector of his wife. I have no desire to have a relationship that excludes my wife. Why would I willingly put myself in the place of temptation? I don’t trust myself since God says that it is difficult to know your own heart.
A husband is not complete without his wife, and a wife is not complete without her husband; so if I am complete, I don’t really need anyone else. God created Adam and Eve and God said unto them, “Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth” but Adam could not do it alone! Eve completed the plan that made mankind possible. Gen. 2:18 tells us that God said that it is not good for man to be alone so He created Eve for him and for the world. God said, “I will make him an help meet for him.” God had created a lion and a lioness, a tiger and a tigress, etc. but Adam was alone. When God presented a naked Eve to Adam who basically said, “Hot diggity dog, that is exactly what I’ve been looking for.”
Or something to that effect.