This Might Upset Some People Or Hurt Their Feelings
Growing up, I always knew three things:
Wearing a gray shirt washed me out (I would proclaim this as a “fashion conscious” and unapologetically precocious 7 year old)
We had to go to church on Sunday.
My father was a good man.
Those were mainstays in my life. How those things morphed into a life threatening case of anorexia is beyond me, but that’s not what this post is about.
Growing up in the suburbs of Ohio in the nineties, things were pretty…normal. (Well, aside from a professional acting career.) But I played in the woods, listened to Hanson, had sleepovers, and never had anything to worry or be afraid of.
Every night, when my dad would come home from work, we would always play this game: I would always hide underneath the kitchen table, and he’d pretend to not know where I was. And then I’d pop out and he’d be so excited and happy to see me. Looking back, I just remember feeling so delighted in. So loved. Cherished, in every sense of the word.
He was (and is) a good man.
This election has brought about a lot of ugliness on both sides. A lot of name calling. Gross generalizations. I’ve written about it. You’ve commented on it. Okay. No need to rehash.
But if there’s one thing that really saddens me, is the rhetoric about white males – we don’t have to go into detail, but it rhymes with shmeshoginistic, shmomaphobic, and shmite shupremecist.
And I’m going to be really honest, last night, I cried myself to sleep thinking about how my father must feel, having all these horrendous names and gross generalizations being tossed around about, in particular, white, Christian males from the Midwest. And how, he just has to take it.
So instead of making this political or defensive or anything like that, I wanted to honor my father, and share a few lessons that he’s taught me.
Growing up, my family never discussed finances. But we did discuss charity. And the importance of it.
It was never seen as something to be dreaded or an obligation, but rather, a joy. A opportunity to share God’s love through the resources we’ve been entrusted with. I remember growing up he funded a “tin roof” village in Nicaragua, he built a well that supplied fresh and clean water to a community in Guatemala, he *secretly* paid the salary of a worker at our church, financially supported missionaries, gave of his time for free on the executive boards of charities and pregnancy centers. Giving was in his blood. Never a burden. Always a joy.
And he instilled that in his family. My brother spent a year after college volunteering with the Jesuit Volunteer Corps. My other brother’s life work is providing and creating dignified and individualized home healthcare centers for the elderly. My mom built houses in Nicaragua and gave english lessons to a refugee woman from Afghanistan.
Dear Media: this man is not greedy or a xenophobic bigot.
2) Respect all people, and behave inclusively.
My dad, being the business man that he was, was ahead of his time in how he conducted his company. Back in the early nineties, long before it was “cool,” he would go out of his way to empower women in the workplace and remove any and all “glass ceilings” in the company.
He instilled in my brothers and I that all people, no matter of gender, color of skin, religion, sexual orientation, nationality – every person deserves respect and has an undeniable dignity as a person. There is zero tolerance for anything less than that. Zero.
Dear Media, this man is neither mysognistic or racist.
3) Family first, always.
There was no sporting event, dance recital, play, parent-teacher conference, or family dinner that my dad missed. We joke that he’d literally change clothes in the bushes to make it to my brothers’ football practice after work at the office. (He was their little league assistant coach). He turned down job promotions that would have moved our family to the Philippines, Germany, China. Don’t get me started on the dedication he had to helping me heal from my anorexia and ulcerative colitis.
The man sacrificed his time, his energy, his life, really, for his family.
Dear Media: this man is not a ruthless capitalist.
4) Let your actions do the evangelizing.
Which, hah, I’m realizing that with this blog I’m literally doing the opposite…
My dad never forced his (very strong) religious beliefs upon anyone. He taught us that we should show our love for the Lord in how we treat people. In the words we speak. In the way we respect the poor and disenfranchised. In the way we stand up for the kid in the lunchroom who is being bullied.
So, I guess, consider this post my standing up for my father. Because he, like many other silent but strong men, he hears the jeers, the jabs, the jarring generalizations and stereotypes being perpetuated about white, Christian males, by the mainstream media and uttered by people who are hurt and angry about the outcome of the election.
I understand, emotions are heightened, and there are perceived concerns/fears, but as my father taught me, before one speaks, one should consider a) is it true, b) is it necessary c) is it kind?
Because there are a lot of men having to just take it, because heaven forbid a white male stand up for himself.
He is not any of the ___”ist” words being hurled like grenades. He has spent a lifetime earning his credibility and I’m going to defend the upstanding man who raised me.
Ok, for fear of going “too far” I’m going to sign off here.
I hope this comes across as it was meant.
Here’s to all men of every race, color and creed who exemplify the values that we millennials need to look up to. Thank you for being everyday heroes.
Were it not for the Marxist misery he spread on an entire nation for eight long miserable years, it would be easy to feel sorry for Obama. Instead we now openly laugh at Buster O’Bama’s Effete Last Stand
Buster O’Bama’s Effete Last Stand
Nov 18, 2016 By Judi McLeod
As the blustering general of his last battle, Barack Hussein Obama, sent a message back home to anti-Donald Trump protests from Germany yesterday—egging on all those taking part not to remain “silent”.
They’re not. Remaining silent, that is. The biggest noise coming from the protesters is a never-ending whine: “Donald Trump’s coming and nobody can stop him!”
For all of his muster and bluster in Germany and other ports of call, it has become clear that Obama, no Lieutenant Colonel George A. Custer, is hiding behind an Army of Snowflakes.
Snowflakes of every kind disappear when things get hot
Snowflakes of every kind disappear when things get hot, and the money George Soros is paying them, won’t bring them back.
Buster O’Bama, who seems to be sustained by the hope that the anarchy of thousands of paid protesters will take down America before Donald J. Trump can be inaugurated as president on Jan. 20, has dreams even bigger than the ones he spun in his book, ‘Dreams From My Father’.
Even World Champion of Undocumented Immigrants German Chancellor Angela Merkel knows down at heart that Obama is not the same threat he was to the Free world before November 8, 2016.
When his handpicked protegé Hillary Clinton was tossed to the curb in 2016 elections, so was Obama’s coveted third term in office.
Fielding a question on the protests during a joint news conference in Berlin alongside Merkel, Obama said:
“I suspect that there’s not a president in our history that hasn’t been subject to these protests,” he answered. “So, I would not advise people who feel strongly or who are concerned about some of the issues that have been raised during the course of the campaign, I wouldn’t advise them to be silent.” (FoxNews, Nov. 17, 2016)
He added: “Voting matters, organizing matters and being informed on the issues matter.”
“Voting does matter, organizing matters and being informed on the issues matter.
You and Hillary Clinton lost, Mr. Obama. Organizing matters and that’s what the Trump transition team is now doing, and the electorate informed on the issues mattered when they voted in Trump more than a week ago.
No one knows better than Obama, Clinton and Soros that protests have been arranged in cities across the country since Trump’s victory last Tuesday.
”Some have been peaceful, but there have been incidents of violence—and a demonstration last Thursday in Portland escalated into a destructive riot. (FoxNews)
“Trump’s campaign manager Kellyanne Conway repeatedly has called for Obama to speak out on the unrest.
“I am calling for responsibility and decency. I hope President Obama says, ‘Cut it out,’” she told “Fox News Sunday.”
Obama, though, so far has not done so, speaking mostly in generalities.
“Whenever you have got an incoming president of the other side, particularly after a bitter election like this, it takes a while for people to reconcile themselves with that new reality. Hopefully, it’s a reminder that elections matter and voting counts,” he told reporters on Monday.
“Asked about the president’s reaction to those carrying “He’s Not My President” signs, White House Press Secretary Josh Earnest said the freedom to protest should be “exercised without violence” but that “it’s not surprising that people are disappointed in the outcome, but it’s important for us to remember, a day or two after the election, that we’re Democrats and Republicans, but we’re Americans and patriots first.”
While expecting Snowflakes who claim to be “terrified” of Trump to stay on the battlefront, Obama whose presidency ends on Jan. 20, has taken it upon himself to tell Trump what to do.
“While he expressed cautious optimism Thursday that Trump would be an ally to Europe, Obama advised the president-elect to avoid simply taking “a realpolitik approach” with Russian President Vladimir Putin. (FoxNews)
“Obama also suggested Trump not “cut deals when convenient,” and he urged him to stand up to Putin when Russia’s values “differ from international norms.”
“Obama also argued social media can erode a democracy, after a campaign in which the candidates’ Twitter accounts—especially Trump’s—acted as their own broadcasting outlets.”
This, from a president who turned to Google to keep his digital presence omnipresent after leaving office, and who bragged about his social media following during eight years in office.
“If we are not serious about facts and what is true and what is not. Particularly in an age of social media when people are getting their information in soundbites and snippets … if we cannot discriminate between serious arguments and propaganda, then we have problems,” he said.
In his last staged battle to hang onto power, Obama is depending on shiftless aimless snowflake warriors who are doing for easy money rather than any sense of loyalty to him and his cause.
Obama thinks he’s intimidating us as he promises to return to community organizing in citizen life. But most folk know he came into the White House as a community organizer, governed as one, and will always be one.
Community Organizing fails as it serves only other activists and not the population as a whole.
Were it not for the Marxist misery he spread on an entire nation for eight long miserable years, it would be easy to feel sorry for Obama.
Instead we now openly laugh at Buster O’Bama’s Effete Last Stand.
BARACKOBAMA.COM: FIGHT, ‘WE’RE NOT BACKING DOWN’
“Now is the time to get in the ring and fight harder than we ever have before.”
Nov 20, 2016
President Obama‘s grassroots Organizing for Action, in a message to supporters, said that voters turned their back on them and it is time respond by fighting “harder than we ever have before.”
Scrapping any intention to work with the new administration, the message from OFA’s BarackObama.com said, “we’re not backing down.”
The email to supporters was a clear rallying cry to fight the incoming Trump administration, despite Obama’s pledge to help the new team.
OFA’s Jeremy Bird said, “If you’re anything like me, you’re still sorting through the events of the past week and a half. It’s hard — there’s no way to sugarcoat that. Vulnerable communities are feeling like this country has turned its back on them. And years of hard work are on the chopping block, seemingly overnight.